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| Elizabeth Lewistown, Montana | Hi. A couple of years ago, my Uncle James died of what was believed to be a heart attack. He was 50. He was my dad's brother and my entire family was very close to him. He lived alone, had no immediate family, and my dad has felt so much guilt about his death. James kind of lived a selfish life, but he was a loving man. I worry that he had many unresolved issues. Sometimes I feel him around, and I get very emotional and find myself wanting to fight with him and talk to him. Will my dad and I ever feel at peace with his death? Is James Bunn at peace? Thank you for your time. | |
| Hi Elizabeth, Since your Uncle James lived alone, which was obviously his choice, your dad would have no way of knowing he was going to have a heart attack, so there is no reason for any guilt. We all make choices, hopefully all good, but not always. Your uncle made his choice. Once a person dies, a lot of times they realize what was so important when they were alive is no big deal now that they are dead As soon as you and your dad have a dream of your uncle and are able to converse with him in it, you will all be at peace. Mary Ann | ||
| David & Jamie St. Ignace, MI | Mary Ann, I lost my dad three years ago and would really like to make contact with him. Any suggestions? | |
| Hi David and Jamie, The best way to make contact with your dad would be in dreams. Ghosts that have crossed over find it easiest and less scary for the living if they come in a dream. Before you go to sleep at night, say to yourself "If I dream of dad tonight, I will talk to him." Say that every night until you have the dream. Then when you have the dream, you will be able to talk to him as if he were sitting across from you. Mary Ann | ||
| Laurie | I have felt and have been told many times that I have a psychic ability. Can you tell me is there a way that I can cultivate this feeling to see if there is anything truly there? | |
| Hi Laurie, I believe everyone has some psychic ability. Sometimes it is called a hunch, gut feeling, or intuition. My best advice is to trust your feelings. Do not second-guess yourself. The more that you use these feelings, the more they will develop. Also read, read and read anything on the subject. The more you can learn, the stronger your ability will be. Your ability will increase because of the knowledge you are absorbing. Mary Ann | ||
| Anita San Jose, CA | I lost my sister to cancer in April 2006, and the entire family was there when she passed away in the hospital. She was a person who was very difficult to love and would always push everyone away, but she also knew that I have always been a believer in the afterlife. When she took her last breath, I saw her daughter's hair blow back even though there were no windows open. I have always been able to sense things that are not there, such as spirits, but have never been able to see them, only a sensation that they are there. I have begged for her to come and let me know she is okay, just a sign, anything, but nothing. Would this mean that she went directly into the light and can't come back? Or that I am looking for something that I can't see or notice? Since I am taking care of her children I figured that she would come and check in on them. Plus, she always loved pulling jokes and pranks on people. | |
| Hi Anita, It is so difficult to lose a loved one after a diagnosis of cancer, especially if it is terminal. It sounds to me that your sister had to feel the love and support from you and the family. She might have thought that she was being brave or strong by pushing everyone away. When a spirit leaves the body after the last breath, a breeze or a temperature change or even sometime a good scent can be sensed or felt by the people in the room. A spirit is pure energy, so this is not an unusual occurrence, and it frequently happens. Any ghost that crosses into the light can come back and forth and visit. They never cause any trouble or problems. Your sister is not going to miss any birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, or family gatherings. My guess is that you will eventually be able to sense her or, at the very least, dream of her and to talk her then. Mary Ann | ||
| Lisa Altadena, CA | Hi Mary Ann, About eight years ago, I lost a childhood friend to cancer. Paul was only 34. After he died, I had dreams of him from time to time. I was sad to realize that he never seemed to be quite happy in these dreams. I didn't get the feeling that he was in hell, but it didn't feel like he was in paradise, either. My feeling was that he was in some type of limbo or something. In one dream, he said to me that he was "very bored" where he was and that he wanted me to go with him. I declined his request and told him that I wanted to stay here to have kids. I didn't dream about him again until about four years later. My dad, who was a wonderful person, had since passed away. My dad lived his life helping people since he felt it was the best way to serve God. One night I had a dream that I was driving with my kids in the car. I saw Paul walking down the street. I pulled over to talk to him. Paul got in the back seat of my car, next to my daughter. This time he was glowing and looked beautiful. He said to me that my dad was an angel and that he had helped him be in a happy/higher place. This dream was about a year ago and I haven't dreamed of Paul again since. I have had dreams of my dad here and there. He always looks so beautiful and young. I asked him once if he was in heaven and he said in his typical modest way that he was. Can my dad be an angel now? I feel him around me, helping me through tough times. On a comforting note, my 4-year-old daughter has been indicating since she was a toddler that she sees him. Now my 15-month-old will wave in one direction (where no one is standing) and say, "Papa." My dad died when my oldest was only 10 weeks old, yet she says things as if she knew him as long as I did. That proves to me that she actually sees him. I miss my dad so much. He has been gone now since 2002. We were very close. I wonder why months and months will pass in between my dreams of seeing him. Is there a reason for that? Second, is it possible that my dad helped Paul go to a higher place of happiness? How does that work? | |
| Hi Lisa, Over the years, I have found out that people with long lingering diseases usually cross over into the light right after their funeral. They are so tired after fighting the battle of bad health they are ready to go to a better place. But this is not always one hundred percent. Paul was only 34. He might have felt he was too young to die, or he might have had unfinished business, or maybe someone alive would not let him go. You dreamt of Paul, but Paul did not come in your dreams. There is a difference. It is very difficult for earthbound ghosts to get into dreams. That is why the dreams did not seem right to you. You are exactly correct: when your dad, died he helped Paul cross over. You will eventually dream of Paul. Sometimes it can take up to three years before the dream happens. Your dad is obviously in heaven, but no, people do not become angels. God created people, and he created angels. You do not cross over like that. But you certainly can have angel-like qualities or help be a guide. Maybe you are not remembering all of your dreams, or maybe because he is such a helpful soul, he is very busy helping a lot of people. Of course your children are seeing their "Papa." He is probably visiting a lot more than you realize. Take comfort that he is visiting and enjoying the grandchildren. Mary Ann | ||
| Mike | Hi Mary Ann, I have had consistent experiences with ghosts and spirits my whole life, so as far as I am concerned, the afterlife is an undisputable fact. Currently, I am working as an ER nurse in a trauma center. I use Reiki on my patients and family from time to time, and they seem to respond well to it. However, in the emergency room, having patients expire is part of the job. So I find myself semi-regularly with patients at their time of death. Sometimes I am one of the last people they see alive. I will try to make them comfortable with Reiki prayer or any medical means. My question is: Is there anything I can do at that time to help them cross over because I know people can get stuck and be disoriented. Should I even try? Would it be dangerous? It seems like just an extension of my job already. If you think it is okay, what is the best way to do it? I would love to hear your thoughts. | |
| Hi Mike, You are in a line of work that has a lot of contact with earthbound ghosts. Reiki is a wonderful energy to help people. It would be great if all people in the medical field would learn Reiki. It is such a positive energy to help patients, and their families. Unless a patient has died of Alzheimer's disease or some form of dementia, they are really not disoriented. Patients with dementia usually have a relative with them at the time of their death. That is a comfort for the spirit once it is out of the body. Everybody stays for their funeral or memorial service. They cross over after that. So you do not have to worry about crossing them over in the hospital. That is not really your job. Just keep up the good work with the Reiki, prayer and positive energy. It really makes a difference and helps the living and dead! Mary Ann | ||
| Marina Lynn | Hello Mary Ann, My grandmother passed when I was 16 years old, 24 years ago. When I was 26 years old, I woke up in the twilight hours to feel my grandmother sitting on the side of my bed. She told me that I couldn't keep her here anymore and that she had to go, and that she loved me. It wasn't until that happened that I was able to speak of my grandmother without crying. Since then, I have had dreams of my grandmother with me having conversations. The most important conversation that I remember came in another dream three years ago. I was in the washroom brushing my hair, and my grandmother was standing beside me. She was offering me $3000 to live with my husband and myself, we were in the process of moving, and the move was something that was happening outside of the dream world. I told her she didn't need to pay us and was welcome to move into our new place with us. Can you tell me if that was my grandmother asking to come to our new house with us? I often feel that she is with me, and I do believe that our loved ones can reach us from the other side and that we only need to be open to receive their messages. Thank you so much for your time. | |
| Hi Marina Lynn, It sounds like you have a great relationship with your deceased grandmother. Through dreams, as you have experienced, it is possible to keep deceased loved ones in our lives. Your grandmother sitting on your bed is actually common. She was worried that you were grieving too much. She took a dramatic step to get your attention. Guess what? It worked! Your grandmother offering $3,000 to live with you is interesting. Think back. Was there a time that you were short $3,000, or was that amount of money a issue in the move? It was her way of telling you now that everything is going to be okay. You are so right. We only have to be open to receive the messages from our loved ones. You are very lucky to have achieved this. Mary Ann | ||
| Jim Los Angeles, CA | I have a question for you regarding the beyond and back. This is not a question about reincarnation. Once you die and you cross over into the light after "all has been said and done" (to put it that way as a happy ending), can you return from the light to see how everything has been since crossing over? Or is it once you cross over, that's it? Thank you for your time. | |
| Hi Jim, Very nice: "all has been said and done." I love it. Yes, once you go into the light, you can come and go with no problems. You cause no problems when you visit someone. None of our relatives or friends that have crossed over will ever miss a holiday, birthday, wedding or any event they would have enjoyed attending when they were alive. At some point, you may see little signs someone is visiting. Mary Ann | ||
| Nadia Chicago, IL | Mary Ann, I've always believed that the spirit of my father has been with me since his passing when I was a year old. My family has always believed in guardian angels. It was my father whom I believe spared my life in what could have been a fatal incident that happened to me as a teenager. I'm also always receiving signs, through dreams and other ways, to let me know when things are going to happen before they happen. Some are almost exactly as the incident happens. I've lived in my apartment for almost two years and have always heard strange sounds. But lately it's been worse. A few weeks ago, I was sitting on my couch watching TV and felt something of a touch on the backside of my hands, as if someone was lightly caressing my hands. A few days later, I heard a clicking sound coming from my kitchen, when I got up to see where it was coming from, as soon as I stepped into the kitchen it stopped. Then when I went to sit back down, it started again. When I went to the kitchen again it stopped. I did this two more times, then shouted, "I'm not playing this game anymore." Then it stopped completely. Just last week, I was standing just outside my bathroom when the light bulb not only blew out, but the whole light bulb exploded. This morning, I heard an electric sound and the lights and my computer dimmed in my bedroom. I then ran into my five-year-old daughter's room and asked her if her lights or TV blinked, and she said no. At this point, I get very weary at home. In the beginning of all this, I thought it was my father's spirit, but I'm not sure anymore. I thought maybe he was trying to send me a message, but I don't know. I know all this sounds crazy, but I would like your opinion. | |
| Hi Nadia, I believe your father has crossed over, but he has been watching over you. That is what dads do whether they are alive, and they still do it in a slightly different way when they have died and crossed over. The feelings of being watched, touched, electrical disturbances, and computer problems? This is an earthbound ghost. This is what they do. You mention that you live in an apartment. This kind of setting for an earthbound ghost is like a smorgasbord for them. They need human energy to keep going, so in an apartment complex if nothing is going on in your place they can go upstairs, downstairs, next door, or anywhere they want. They are an energy drain on the living. That is why you are so tired. Please try having your apartment blessed by an ordained priest or minister. But DO NOT get holy water and throw it around yourself. That will make it worse. Get a smudge stick. That is what Native Americans use to calm and clear earthbound ghosts. They are usually made of sage or sweet grass. Please let me know if these suggestions helped you. Mary Ann | ||
| Debbie Atlanta, GA | My parents both died very young, at age 62 and 63, of serious illnesses. My dad died of lung cancer, but had suffered heart problems for years prior to this. My mom was 63 when she died of heart and kidney failure and was in the hospital for a long time prior to her death. I was holding her hand when she died. She had stopped breathing and was on a machine. She opened her eyes and appeared to smile, and then she was gone. During the time she was in the hospital, she had surgery to remove fluid from around her heart, but did not want to go on dialysis for her kidney disease. After her surgery, when she was still under the effects of anesthesia, she appeared to point to the ceiling and motion with her finger as if asking someone to come to her. She would mumble something that I could not understand, and when I tried to wake her, she would appear agitated. Was she talking to my dad, who predeceased her, to come to get her and take her to heaven? What else could this mean? My dad died at home, and I saw him after he died. He did not have the peaceful look my mother had. I have worried that he might not have made it to heaven, but had a dream that he was up in the clouds between his father and a woman I later learned was his mother, who died before I was born. Am I a mental case, or were they trying to make sure that I knew that they were okay? | |
| Hi Debbie, It is not unusual for a husband not to cross over until the wife dies. They will then cross over together after the wife's funeral service. Your parents were young, and I am sure your dad was worried about your mom and you. Your dad was not happy when he died. He still felt he had to be in charge and try to help. But this is free will. It was his choice to stay with your mom. Of course your dad could have crossed over and still helped your mother, but when you die you do not realize this. That is probably what his mother, your grandmother, was trying to tell him. Yes, when people are close to death they do see people that are waiting for them, and they do not want to be disturbed when they are seeing a loved one. That is why your mom was agitated. So no, you are not a mental case. They did get the message to you. They are better than okay. They are in a great place now. Mary Ann | ||
| Amber Fernley, NV | My parents died 18 years ago on Oct 8 (mom) and Nov 2 (dad). Can they still contact me after such a long period of time? I would like to know if their spirit can come visit us still and, if so, do you think they know about all my children? Also, growing up I always said I wanted four children, two boys first, then twin girls. I got just that. Do you think my parents had anything to do with that? Thanks for taking the time to read this email. | |
| Hi Amber, Yes, your parents can contact you through dreams. They would never miss being with their grandchildren. Depending on the age of your children, they probably have seen and even talked and played with their grandma and grandpa. I have no knowledge if your parents had any way of helping with your choice of children. But it is a nice thought. Mary Ann | ||
| Brandi Morriston, FL | Hello Mary Ann, My husband and I have three children, and two of them are girls. I have been told by many people other than family that they are very special girls. On my husband's side of the family there are many family members that are very sensitive. My oldest daughter tells me she can see and talk with the spirits of the other side, and I have never discouraged her, but lately our youngest is saying things as well. Do my girls have special gifts, or does only my oldest girl have it, and the younger one is trying to follow in big sister's footsteps? I am just unsure of what to say to them at times! | |
| Hi Brandi, You did not say how old the girls are. If this started under the age of three years and it has continued past seven or eight years old, then yes, believe both of them. Children are so innocent and pure they can see and interact with guardian angels, spirit guides friends, and relatives that have died. You have done exactly the right thing by not discouraging them to tell you what, who, and when this happens. But only talk about it when they bring it up, because you could make them feel uncomfortable if you want to talk about it all the time. Of course this ability could be a genetic thing. It certainly is with me. Mary Ann | ||
| Natalie | Hi Mary Ann, Years ago, when I was a little girl, I apparently saw the ghost of my grandfather. I do not remember this, but this was told to me by my mother. A few things: My grandfather was out overnight in winter in Saskatoon and got frostbite on his hands and feet, and they had to be amputated. When I came running out of my room, I said, "Mommy, there's a man in my room with no hands and feet, and he was crying." Now, I can't remember this, but I would love to know if he had a message, or why he came to me. Why can't I see him or anyone else anymore? Thanks. | |
| Hi Natalie, Children are very open to seeing all kinds of spirits from angels, guardian angels, relatives, saints, spirits that have crossed over and earthbound ones. A lot of time their imaginary friends are not imaginary. Usually when they get to first or second grade it happens less and less. I believe if you do not use, it you lose it as you get older. You can remember some encounters with spirits you had, but your adult brain is saying, "No way." Or, as in your case, your mother told you what happened. Your grandfather was probably just coming through to visit. He would not have said anything to you, because of the way you saw him would have scared you. Hope this helps. Mary Ann | ||
| Virginia Newark, DE | Mary Ann, My father had a massive brain stem stroke and collapsed at work in September 2003. He was rushed to the hospital and slipped into a coma. The doctors kept telling us to pull the plug, but I refused. He never came out of the coma, but I think he heard me telling him I love him, and I hope he knew I was there at the hospital just about every single day (almost all day and night) until he passed away in December 2003. I wanted to know if he suffered because of my not letting them pull the plug. It tears me up that he may have been in pain because of me. I miss him terribly. How can I know what the answers are? I was robbed and kidnapped at gunpoint (forced to go to MAC machine and withdraw money) in January 2005. My husband suffered cardiac arrest that evening. I started CPR and called 911. He was taken to the ER and declared brain dead the next night. I never got to say goodbye to him or my dad. I don't know if either of them are happy. I miss and love them both. I think of them all the time. Can you tell me anything that can help ease my mind? My husband's kidneys were donated to two individuals out of state (as he was an organ donor). | |
| Hi Virginia, I am so sorry for your losses. As far as your father's condition, the doctors told you to disconnect, which tells me he had no brain function. So I do not think he was in pain. What was most likely hard for him was seeing what you were going through. It is very hard to watch someone you love go through this. Yes, he heard every word you said and knows you were there and loved him. He would have seen everyone and heard any conversations that went on around him. Your husband was probably so relieved you were not killed in the robbery, I am sure he was not even thinking of himself. He must have had a very lovely spirit to be an organ donor. He helped other people live. You will dream of your father and husband at some point and be able to ask them all these questions yourself. If you do not remember your dreams, get a herb called mugwort. Make a little sachet out of it, and place it between your pillowcase and pillow. In about three weeks you should start remembering your dreams. Mary Ann |
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My Mom passed away last month, I miss her very much!! She wasnt very healthy (or happy) for years, but was diagnosed with terminal cancer this past June. I was close with her and did the majority of her errands as any child should, I loved her and I know she loved me. Last night I had a dream that was sad, she was sitting in a chair still not feeling well, and looked at me (I was sitting at her feet) and she said "I'm heartbroken" and I was rubbing and leg and I said "Me too!" I would hate to think that mom still feels sadness and pain or is upset about something, I've looked for sited to interpret dreams but their very vague, and don't really sum up the dream I had. Any help would be very appreciated. Thank you.
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